Body Image: Comparison Trap

Hello Wonderful People!

I am getting deep today, under your skin, to get to the heart of your emotions, to release the beautiful person you are inside.

I know that I am not the typical person someone would see in the fashion magazines.  However, I felt I don’t measure up because I am not a size double-zero. I canceled many of my magazine subscriptions because it was too much clutter and most of them looked the same and had identical ads. Yes, it use to intimidate me to see someone who is thin and tall and when I look in the mirror, I am somewhat tall with hips. Shakira says, “Hips don’t lie!” And my hips are staring right back at me. It seemed like a joke for me to be doing a fashion blog because who would take me seriously when it came to fashion.

Well we have to be comfortable in our own skin. Comparison is a deadly weapon that will do nothing but bring you and others around you down.

Body Image was a battle for me. Even though I worked out hard and ate healthy, I never was stick thin. Well, you know what! I finally had to finally realize that it is not about being stick then its about being healthy.

Should I loose 10, no 20, no 30 pounds?  What’s good enough? It’s never good enough!

Have any of you felt like that?

Stop it! I immediately we have to cast those imaginations down and thank the Lord for who He is in me (in us) and what he has done for us.

I can only speak for myself. If I truly dictated my life on what other people thought I should do, I would not be where I am today.

I came across the Comparison Trap app on my phone. It’s was a jewel that I found.

I listened to the videos by Andy Stanley and saw a devotional was available by Sandra Stanley was available on for $12.52 and on for $10.99. There is also DVD study for women for $15.00. I purchased the devotional and its wealth of information for each of the 28 days.

Comparison Trap

Comparison Trap

Take a look at the Land of ER teaching by Andy Stanley.

In another important case, Ms. Freeman challenged the Saint Louis Housing Authority in 1954 that allowed legal racial discrimination in the city’s public housing. That court case ended the legalized discrimination,and later Freeman worked as a staff attorney for the St. Louis Land Clearance and Housing Authorities. She began as an associate general counsel and later became the general counsel of the St. Louis Housing Authority. She served in these positions from 1956 to 1970.

President Lyndon Johnson nominated Ms. Freeman to be in a position on the United States Commission on Civil Rights in 1964. In the video below, Ms. Freeman recounts meeting Johnson and what it meant to be the first black woman on the Commission, a position she held until 1979. Frankie also served on the Community Services Administration during Jimmy Carter’s administration, and later on the Citizen’s Commission on Civil Rights.

Ms. Freeman’s life has been an inspiration to me and many people in various walks of life.

  • She graduated from law school at a time when it was difficult and almost impossible for black women to go to college.
  • She started her own law practice when no law firm would hire her.
  • She worked with several United States Presidential Commissions to end racial discrimination and improve the country.

Happy Birthday Ms. Freeman!
Thank you for all the work you have done to make this country better for all the people who live here. We wouldn’t have come this far without you.


Do You Know Your Thanksgiving History?

Happy Thanksgiving, Beautiful People!

Giving Thanks

Giving Thanks

Thanking my Lord and Savior for everlasting life. Thankful for being surrounded by my hubby and my family.

“I thank you from my heart, and I will never stop singing your praises, my Lord and my God.” Ps. 30:12 (CEV)

Thanksgiving Day is a time to reflect back on what I am thankful for. Thank God each and everyday for health, family, abundance of prosperity, and much more.

What about creating a list?
It’s so good to sit down and make a list.  When you make of list of what you are thankful for, you can always go back to it for encouragement and even add more to it.

Thanksgiving is about the food, right?

No, it’s not just about the food. A lot is going on in America and the World right now, and we have so much on our prayer agendas to put before the Lord. I was searching for more information about the protest over the Dakota pipeline, and adding that on my prayer list. Praying for the Indian nation.

With today being Thanksgiving and thinking about the origins of the holiday, I remembered back to what I was taught in history class about the Pilgrims and the Indians. I didn’t know it was the Wampanoags nation, nor did I know much about these encounters. It is a shame that the history books then did not more provide the students with the full story. As a child I would read about that first thanksgiving and would watch cartoons during the holiday that depicted peace and unity.

However, I was not taught that the peace agreement between the Wampanoag nation and the Pilgrims did not last very long. On the Manataka American Indian Council website I read, “The Real Story of Thanksgiving,” the relationship between the Pilgrims and the Wampanoag  nation turned from peace to hatred.  There was once peace but it didn’t even last 50 years. the The Pilgrims looked at the Wampanoag nation as teachers who taught them how to sustain the land they came to on the Mayflower, In contrast shortly after the peace agreement the relationship deteriorated in a downward spiral.

As a person of color researching her ancestry, I am disheartened because the story of Thanksgiving is not an entirely happy as some may have thought. Most of the time we only read one side of the story, but it is important that we take the time to read and study the whole story from all viewpoints.

I recently watched an American Experience (PBS) documentary about the Puritans. I don’t want to spoil it for you and give you all the highlights.However, I found it very interesting and thought-provoking. It made me want to learn more. The documentary is an hour and fifty four minutes so grab a cup of tea and let me know what you think afterwards.

Knowledge is power. Thanksgiving is not just another day.

A resource I plan to read:
“Invasion of American” by Francis Jennings on

Have a Blessed Thanksgiving and remember that if you are not with your loved ones or friends remember that Jesus loves you and you are special to Him and to us here at



Hi Beautiful People,

I was invited to attend a #MOTOZFASHIONNIGHT BY #VERIZON, at Laurie Solet. The Laurie Solet store was closed to the public for this special event. I found out more about the new New Moto Z Device and accessories; available exclusively to Verizon Wireless. I also was able to learn about Verizon’s Hopeline program.

It was an awesome night and I had the privilege of meeting the Verizon representatives in person, and seeing some familiar faces and a great group of bloggers who blog about various genres from Fashion to mom-hood.


Motorola Droid Z

The Moto Z Droid Phone is one of the thinnest phones I have seen and very lightweight. Verizon representative, Megan gave a demonstration of how to use the phone. The Moto Z has a battery that can last a full day and includes the turbo drive charge that can charge your phone for eight hours of use in only fifteen minutes.  The snap on interchangeable Moto Mods that attach to convert the phone into a projector and speaker.

Moto Droid Z

Moto Droid Z

I was amazed how the Moto Droid Z projected the image onto the screen up to 70 feet. I can envision friends and family showing photo galleries at get-togethers. It could also be used for presentations at work if the presentation was downloaded on your phone.If I get the opportunity to try out the phone and the snap mods I will do an in-depth detailed review on my blog.



 The night included some great shopping, I and the other bloggers received a Laurie Solet gift card. The store has beautiful women’s apparel and jewelry that are perfect for fall and winter. The designs are from local designers and the styles are relaxed and laid back.



What I thought was most important was learning more about Verizon’s Hopeline program. Megan gave a presentation that shared some of the Hopeline facts. If you have old cell phones or devices, Verizon will collect them and either give them to people in need or recycle them an a environmental manner.


Did you see in the chart that 1 in 4 Women, 1 in 9 men, and more than 3 million children are affected by domestic violence in the USA.

Please watch William Gay’s story.

The color purple represents Domestic Violence Awareness month. In the gift bags were the Mophie power station charger and a pair of LG Tone Pro headphones.


On each box of a Verizon purple product for Domestic Violence Awareness Month reads:



“Support victims and survivors of domestic violence by going purple. For every purple product purchased for Domestic Violence Awareness Month , Verizon- through its HopeLine program will make a $3 donation to Camp Hope America. Your purple purchase will help victims and their children gain access to valuable services to help them heal, survive and thrive.”

Thank you Verizon for inviting me to this event. Great opportunity to learn and support Domestic Awareness Month.

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JTwisdom received a Laurie Solet gift card for attending the event; and a Mophie Powerstation and the LG TonePRO in the gift bag in exchange for writing about the Hopeline Program. This blog is my honest and heartfelt review of the event.

5 Things You Need To Do Before You Say ‘I Do’

So your boyfriend has just proposed – it doesn’t get more exciting than that! Now begins a period of careful planning so that you can have the wedding of your dreams! Whether you want an intimate ceremony with just your nearest and dearest or a huge day with hundreds of people, you’ll need to be very organized. Here is what you need to do before you can say ‘I do’!

Get An Engagement Ring
First things first; you need an engagement ring now that you are engaged! Sometimes men like to pick one out to propose with, but these days many couples like to choose a ring together after the proposal. Online jewelry shops have gotten a lot better than they were a few years ago and today many couples buy their Verragio wedding and engagement rings online. While you are browsing for your engagement ring, why not think about your wedding bands as well!

Set A Date
When do you want to get married? You will need to choose a date before you organize anything else. Summer weddings are very popular, so if you are planning on getting married in June, July, or August you will need to book everything well in advance. One new trend that seems to be taking the wedding world by storm is getting married on a weekday. Traditionally, couples wed on Saturdays. But now, as people have less money to spend, they are opting for cheaper mid-week weddings.

Check with your church to make sure the date you want is available

Check with your church to make sure the date you want is available

Send Out Invitations
Once you know your date, it is time to let all your guests know. If you are not getting married for a year or two, send out a ‘save the date’ card first. This way, they will know to keep the date free and request time off work if they need to. Handmade invitations will look extremely cute and are a great way to start adding some personality to your big day. They can also hint at the theme you have chosen for your wedding. However, if you want to save some money, you can always just send out emails to let people know.

Ask Bridesmaids And The Best Man
If you already know who you want to be your bridesmaids and best man, let them know as soon as possible. Then they can keep the date free and start helping you and your fiance with all the important preparations. They will also need to make sure they are free for the wedding rehearsals.

Get In Shape
You will want to look your best on your big day. After all, every camera will be on you in your gorgeous dress! To make sure you look absolutely flawless now is the time to start getting in shape. Hit the gym to tone up your body. Take a look at your diet to see if there are any changes you can make to make it healthier. It is also a good idea to start working on your skin now. Moisturize every day to make it soft and smooth.

Happy planning!

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Happy Mother’s Day

Hello Beautiful People,

Today is Mothers Day and it’s suppose to be a special day, right?

Well, many people are celebrating and having fun with their mothers and families, however for many it can be a day that they can’t wait until it’s over.

My mother

JT's mother highschool graduation picture before going off to college

My mother’s highschool graduation picture before going off to college

My mother passed away almost 22 years ago. I know she is with the Lord in heaven, however I do miss her.  I see people enjoying the day, saying what they did with their mother or how they spent the holiday.  Am I jealous?  No, but it makes me think of how she and my Dad raised me.  I am not supposed to cry; but sometimes I do.

Happy Mothers Day! How many children do you have?
No birth children, my hubby and I have two fur babies that are very energetic and spoiled.  As I reflect when my husband and I got married right after the honeymoon, we realized that we would be taking care of my dad, there was no baby in the plan. I had no brothers or sisters to help with making sure meals were prepared or taking turns to go to doctors visits, etc. I am not asking for sympathy that’s just how it was.
My Daddy was priority and thank the Lord I have a husband who was there with me all the way when we were taking care of my Dad.

My Grandmother

My Grandmother and I

My Grandmother and I at Union Station

My Grandmother went to be with the Lord seventeen years ago. She’s an inspiration and worked hard to provide for her family.  She was there for me in many ways and a great role model.

My Aunt

My Aunt DJ, my mother’s sister is special to me and my husband. She lives out of town; but we are very close and if she needs me I am there for her.

I have 3 nieces and 3 nephews by marriage that I have seen grow up, graduate and do great things and that’s a blessing. Seeing them in our wedding and now they are working, married and with their own kids, going off to college and graduating from high school is pretty amazing.  They grow up so fast.  I am an only child so being an Aunt is special. I don’t get to see them as much because we don’t stay in the same town, but hubby and I make sure we keep in contact.
Make sure you celebrate Aunties Day on July 24, 2016!
This is a great saying from Melanie Notkin, Founder and Author of Savvy Auntie
“Babies are born from the womb.
Maternity is born from the soul.
There are many ways to mother.”

What’s so special about Mothers Day!
That I realized God is my mother and my father because both of my parents are with the Lord. Spending time with my heavenly Father and focusing on a relationship with him not just lip service soothes my soul.

 Psalms 23 (Message Bible)
A David Psalm

23 1-3 God, my shepherd!

    I don’t need a thing.
You have bedded me down in lush meadows,
    you find me quiet pools to drink from.
True to your word,
    you let me catch my breath
    and send me in the right direction.

Even when the way goes through
    Death Valley,
I’m not afraid
    when you walk at my side.
Your trusty shepherd’s crook
    makes me feel secure.

You serve me a six-course dinner
    right in front of my enemies.
You revive my drooping head;
    my cup brims with blessing.

Your beauty and love chase after me
    every day of my life.
I’m back home in the house of God
    for the rest of my life.

If Mothers Day is not such a great holiday for you and you can’t wait for Monday to come, I am praying that the Lord would comfort you and wrap his loving arms around you because you are his child.

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